Mari Plank, Life Coach/Counselor

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Marriage with Mari: Top Traits of Happily Married Couples

Rob and I used The 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make during our pre-marital counseling. Authors Bill and Pam Farrel asked couples to list the best traits of their long-term marriages. Here are a few that were repeated amongst the surveys: 

  • We make room for each other.
  • We maintain our own unique likes and activities.
  • We aren’t jealous.
  • We stick together.
  • We show respect.
  • We trust.
  • We had a good sense of humor.
  • We love God together.
  • We want to make our marriage work.
  • We spend time together.
  • We talk things through.
  • We don’t make major decisions without each other.
  • We allow for our differences.
  • We encourage each other.
  • We both seek God daily, love him, and seek his will first.
  • We know that we will be faithful to each other until death.
  •  We share everything with each other as long as it is done in love. 
  • We consider the others interest before our own (this is a fruit of the Holy Spirit).
  • We believe that has the other person has my best interest at heart.
  • We communicate our love daily to each other.
  • We do not concern ourselves with how much the other person is giving or doing for our relationship. 
  • We look to ourselves to see if we are being the kind of people that God wants us to be and the other person needs us to be. 
  • We serve God together. 
  • We forgive. 
  • We are friends.
  •  We have confidence in each other.
  •  We enjoy all levels of intimacy. 
  • We are honest with each other. 
  • We practice hospitality together. 
  • We are best friends. 
  • We tell each other everything.
  • We love being together.

Farrel, B., 2005, The 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make, Harvest House Publishers.

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