Mari Plank, Life Coach/Counselor

heal, renew, transform

Overcoming Shame (excerpt from Stop Dancing With The Enemy)

What can we appropriate at the cross regarding shame?

Our faith in Jesus made us righteous. For what does the scripture say? “Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.” Rom. 4:3 The Greek word for account is logidzomai; it means to numerically to count, compute, and sum up and to consider, reckon, reason, deem, evaluate, or value. Logidzomai finalizes thought, judges’ matter, draws logical conclusions, decides outcomes, and puts every action into a debit or credit position.

This means that God added up, calculated all our sin, shame, insecurities, fears, etc. which equaled a huge insurmountable debt. He evaluated, reasoned, deemed, and judged our faith in Christ and came to a logical conclusion and put His righteousness as a credit to our account! Essentially, He said our debt of sin was paid in full by Jesus.

Think of the magnitude of this! As far as God is concerned, the shame we bear is now covered by His righteousness. God only sees us through the blood of Jesus. Not only was our debt wiped out, so our accounts were paid, but then God gave us a huge “credit.” Jesus’s righteousness was an incredible asset!

We are outfitted with the Robe of Righteousness. I will sing for joy in God, explode in praise from deep in my soul! He dressed me up in a suit of salvation; he outfitted me in a robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom who puts on a tuxedo and a bride a jeweled tiara. For as the earth bursts with spring wildflowers, and as a garden cascades with blossoms, so the Master, God, brings righteousness into full bloom and puts praise on display before the nations. Isaiah 61:10 The Msg. Bible

We are the righteousness of God in Him. For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him. 2 Cor. 5:21

Cleansed or pure as snow. What is pure? It is free of any contamination. “Come now, and let us reason together,” Says the Lord, “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall be as wool.” Isaiah 1:18 NKJV.

This is huge for shame-bound people, especially victims of abuse. Often victims of sexual abuse feel “dirty” or “unclean” or “used goods.” God says you are white as the driven snow. His love and Word can wash all the filth and dirt of our soul and heart. This includes shame.

Not flawed but a masterpiece. You are a masterpiece created in Christ Jesus. For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago. Eph 2:10, NLT

Overcoming Condemnation

What is condemnation? It means to declare to be reprehensible, wrong, or evil usually after weighing evidence and without reservation. Condemnation is the voice of The Deceiver bringing judgment, accusation, and declaration of how repulsive, bad, or flawed we are. It feeds on our shame, insecurity, fears, and self-loathing. Everything that is negative, wrong, and imperfect becomes the target of condemnation.

We see Paul’s  view of condemnation in Romans 7. He is acknowledging the struggle with his sinful nature and the new man which is regenerated through Jesus. Paul says the good he wants to do, he doesn’t do. The evil he doesn’t want to do, he does. He sees himself as wretched (miserable, unhappy, sad, contemptible, and despicable). It sounds like shame has gotten a hold of Paul.

But in the next chapter, he realizes there is no condemnation for anyone in Christ. He is confident of his new position in Christ. Despite the war we face between our sinful nature and the new man, we are not under God’s judgment. This internal war doesn’t change God’s view of us! Again, He sees us in Christ and in His righteousness.

So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. Rom. 8:1 NLT

My Testimony

During my healing journey, I was pregnant with my third child. Following my history of leaving Fred and coming back, I found myself in the same situation I had been two times before. I was planning to tell my dad when I heard the voice of the The Deceiver. “Look, you are pregnant again, what is your dad going to say?” It was dripping with condemnation. I was becoming strong in the Lord and learning to wield the Sword of The Spirit (the Word of God) effectively against The Deceiver and his lies.

Without even thinking about it, I held up my hand like a police officer stopping traffic and yelled, “Shut up.” He and I knew what that meant. There was no condemnation because I was in Christ Jesus. I imagined he was choking on his words. It became incredibly quiet, and I never heard that accusation again!

In conclusion, shame often comes from our family roots through relationships or experiences. It causes us to feel “less than,” “flawed,” “dirty,” “not enough.” It can result in depression and low self-esteem and will cause us to recreate shame in our lives.

We can overcome shame by appropriating Jesus’s death and resurrection. We need to accept His Robe of Righteousness and truth that our shame was nailed to the cross. In God’s eyes, He sees us through the precious blood of Jesus. He says we are redeemed and pure.

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